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The Good Girls Guide To Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire

The world sells us on the concept that bad girls have way more fun in the bedroom.

If you are not hooking up with that guy you met last time at the party, you are totally missing out.

As young adults, we are pressured and bombarded with sexual messages all around us, in music, movies we watch, even at the check out counter at the grocery store.  You know those popular magazine covers, with articles like, “Sex So Hot You’ll Need to Crank The AC”?

The media brain washes us to believe that we need to “give up the goods” before marriage, a new norm these day. Some guys claim that they need to “test drive the goods before they buy.” Sadly so many good girls fall prey to this.

Do bad girls really have all the fun? If I remain sexually pure, am I dooming my sex life? Am I truly missing out? This week on the blog, I am reviewing the book The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex.

Christian marriage intimacy tips. The Good Girls Guide to Great sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire. #christianmarriage #biblicalwomanhood #youngadulty


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Summary On the Back of The Book

Billions of people have had sex. Far fewer have made love. In The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex, author Sheila Wray Gregoire helps women see how sexual intimacy was designed to be physically stupendous but also incredibly intimate.

Whether you’re about to walk down the aisle or you’ve been married for decades, The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex will lead you on a wonderful journey of discovery towards the amazing sex life God designed you for.

With humor, research, and lots of anecdotes, author Sheila Wray Gregoire helps women see how our culture’s version of sex, which concentrates on the physical above all else, makes sex shallow. God, on the other hand, intended sex to unite us physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Sheila Wray Gregoire walks through these three aspects of sex, showing how to make each amazing, and how to overcome the roadblocks in each area we often encounter.

Drawing on survey results from over 2,000 people, she also includes lots of voices from other Good Girls, giving insight into how other women have learned to truly enjoy sex in marriage.

The Good Girls Guide To Great Sex by Sheila Wray Gregoire

If as a christian you are tired of hearing you shouldn’t have sex outside of marriage but no one really gives you a solid reason why not, I would encourage you to first pick up a copy of the book, Sex, Jesus and the Conversations The Church Forgot.

I found Sheila Wray Gregoire’s book The Good Girls Guide To Great Sex to be the perfect balance between biblical and practical. Her book isn’t one of those preachy christian marriage books. Instead, you walk away with biblical truths and ideas to improve your sex life. Sheila Wray Gregoire has been speaking at marriage and women’s conferences for years and also blogs over at To Love Honor and Vacuum where she teaches how good girls should approach sexuality in marriage.

Perhaps growing up sex was somewhat of a taboo topic. Now that you are getting married you are just not to sure about what to expect, Sheila Wray Gregoire has got you covered. In her book, The Good Girls’ Guide to Great Sex, she discusses topics such as, God’s design for sexuality and what honoring God’s design can do for your marriage, body anatomy, birth control methods as well as how men and women think about and approach sex differently.

For the single gals, if you are on the fence about whether you should remain sexually pure, in this book you will find relatable encouragement from women who waited to get married to have sex as well as those who didn’t. The results may surprise you!

Throughout the book she pulls from results from surveys she conducted which helps support the point that good girls are actually having way more fun in the bedroom. I particularly liked that she also included quotes which she termed, ” A Good Girl Speaks” or “A Good Girl Dare” which offered encouragement and additional tips to improve your sex life.

What I liked the most from the book, was that she didn’t just focus on the physical, which is what most individuals tend to focus on when sex is a struggle. She instead encourage couples to do things such as focusing on their friendship and communication, be purposeful in spending time with each other and this in turn will carryover into the bedroom. I liked Sheila Wray Gregoire’s holistic approach to talking about sex, she divides the book into sections which addresses the physical, the spiritual as well as relational aspects. In her book, she also addresses topics such as sex toys and pornography addiction.

If you are looking for a pure, holy and sizzling marriage or want some tips to boost your sex life, you will want to pick up a copy of the book, The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex. Check out my 2019 book reading challenge for additional books I plan on reading this year!

Would I Recommend

Regardless of what stage you are in your marriage, you can walk away with some solid christian sex advice that can bless your marriage. I would recommend this book for newlyweds or individuals planning on getting married. The topics discussed can help answer your questions about what to expect for your first encounter as well as gain tips to help you establish a solid foundation for your marriage from the start. If you know of a couple getting married, why not include The Good Girls Guide to Great Sex as a gift to the bride for her bridal shower?

Looking for even more marriage resources? Check out Sheila Wray Gregoire’s course, “Boost Your Libido“. A course for married women, this 10-module video based course helps women learn to “flip that switch” and get in the mood again!  You’ll learn what libido is, and how we can think differently and change our daily routines so that sex seems much more appealing.


Checkout our Book Reviews library for other great christian books for 20 somethings to add to your reading list.

I am Shanique, the creator of the blog + brand Rock Solid Faith where we provide practical tips to help young adults develop a deeper intimacy with God and live out their faith in a lukewarm Christian culture.

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    Laura at Cheered on Mom
    January 29, 2019 at 7:45 pm

    I didn’t know about this book, but I do know that Sheila’s blog is super popular for good reason. Sounds like a must read. Thanks for sharing!

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    Kat | Dearly Loved Child
    February 15, 2019 at 3:11 am

    This is a book I wish I had when I was engaged. Your recommendation is spot on! Thank you for sharing!

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