With tears in her eyes, my friend kicked off her heels and jumped into bed sobbing uncontrollably. Here she was for the umpteen time heart broken. Another day, another player, another dude claiming to be what he wasn’t. When will this all end, she muttered? “Why can’t I just find the one whom my soul loves with just the swing of a wand?” God, I’m tired of being single!
For my single friends, we have all been there, that point when we get tired of playing all the games. We question our circumstances and cry out asking, God, where on earth is your help mate? You might be in a difficult situation right now, but take courage my friend, your helpmate is just around the corner.
It’s hard to accept at times when you are single, but your helpmate will come around when you least expect it. Embrace your singleness, focus on being the best version of you that not only makes you happy but prepares you for your future spouse. Here are several encouraging bible verses about singleness and five ways to practice purposeful singleness while waiting on the one whom your soul loves.
Bible Verses About Singleness
The following scriptures on singleness have all been taken from the King James Version and offer some encouragement in trusting God in your singleness.
“But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-35
“Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?” 2 Corinthians 6:14
“I charge you, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, by the roes, and by the hinds of the field, that ye stir not up, nor awake my love, till he please.” Song of Solomon 3:5
“For thy Maker is thine husband; the Lord of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.” Isaiah 54:5
Scriptures on Being Single
“Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.” Hebrews 13:5
“Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” Proverbs 31:30
“I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.” Romans 12:1
“For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I.” 1 Corinthians 7:7-8
Singleness In the Bible
“Young men likewise exhort to be sober minded.” Titus 2:6
“And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18
“Wherewithal shall a young man cleanse his way? by taking heed thereto according to thy word. With my whole heart have I sought thee: O let me not wander from thy commandments.” Psalms 119:9-10
“ But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” Matthew 6:33
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.” Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
Five Way To Practice Purposeful Singleness
While you are single, this is an excellent time to travel and explore different places. You not only discover new places but embrace different cultures and perspectives. With no kids or spouse its relatively easy to make last minute plans. You can plan getaways with the girls, road trips or just simply go exploring on your own. You are more likely to step out of your comfort zone meeting new people when you are on your own than with friends. If you are looking for ideas for your next trip, here are 27 Epic Adventures Worth Taking In Your Twenties .
Purposeful Singleness|Practice Self Love
We all have things we don’t like about ourselves especially as females. Remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, so you are indeed special. By getting in tune with the creator, the creation (we as humans) will realize how special we are in the eyes of God. Ultimately, the aim is to accept yourself for who you are with all the shortfalls you view as your flaws. Take time to break any unhealthy habits you may have, assessing what is and isn’t working for you. In the process, surround yourself, with people who will support you as well as help you become who you would like to be. Its helpful to use daily affirmations to replace your negative beliefs.
Purposeful Singleness|Pursue Your Passions
There are things in life we want to achieve, go study abroad for a year, get a master degree, complete our bucket list, learn a new language, the possibilities are endless. Take the time to assess what you want to achieve in life and go after them.
Purposeful Singleness|Build your relationship with God
As young adults, as we leave the nest, the onus is on us, to know God for ourselves and build that personal relationship with him. Prayer and Bible study are essential elements in building that relationship with God and his sacrifice is the perfect example of what it means to truly love. Focus on getting to know God more and the purpose he has for your life. You can even try a bible study on singleness or try a guided prayer journal with resources on prayers for singleness who want to get married.
Purposeful Singleness|Learn to Cook
As you adult in life, you will find yourself hosting friends and family. While fast food is convenient, it isn’t necessarily a healthy choice. Now is the perfect time to learn to cook. You can turn to the food network, research how to cook your favorite foods and add them to your repertoire. Here are some of my favorite YouTube Food channels to watch, Mind Over Munch, Fab Lunch.
In life, our aim shouldn’t be to become what society wants us to become but instead to live up to Gods ideal. Gods knows you better than anyone, he created you, he will find you your ideal match. Focus on your relationship with God and he will give you the desires of your heart. God’s timing may not be the same as yours.
How have you been coping with singleness? What are some of your favorite Bible verses about singleness?