Being Content In Singleness

With tears in her eyes, my friend kicked off her heels and jumped into bed sobbing uncontrollably. Here she was for the umpteen time heart broken. Another day, another player, another dude claiming to be what he wasn’t. When will this all end, she muttered? “Why can’t I just find the one whom my soul loves with just the swing of a wand?”

For my single friends, we have all been there, that point when we get tired of playing all the games. We question our circumstances and cry out asking, God, where on earth is your help mate? You might be in a difficult situation right now, but take courage my friend, your helpmate is just around the corner.

It’s hard to accept at times when you are single, but your helpmate will come around when you least expect it. Embrace your singleness, focus on being the best version of you that not only makes you happy but prepares you for your future spouse. Here are five ways to practice being content in singleness while waiting on the one whom your soul loves.

Being Content In Singleness


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While you are single, this is an excellent time to travel and explore different places. You not only discover new places but embrace different cultures and perspectives. With no kids or spouse its relatively easy to make last minute plans. You can plan getaways with the girls, road trips or just simply go exploring on your own. You are more likely to step out of your comfort zone meeting new people when you are on your own than with friends. If you are looking for ideas for your next trip, here are 27 Epic Adventures Worth Taking In Your Twenties .

Related: What it Means To Love Unconditionally

Self Love

We all have things we don’t like about ourselves especially as females. Remember that you are fearfully and wonderfully made, so you are indeed special. By getting in tune with the creator, the creation (we as humans) will realize how special we are in the eyes of God. Ultimately, the aim is to accept yourself for who you are with all the shortfalls you view as your flaws. Take time to break any unhealthy habits you may have, assessing what is and isn’t working for you. In the process, surround yourself, with people who will support you as well as help you become who you would like to be. Its helpful to use daily affirmations to replace your negative beliefs.

 Pursue Your Passions

There are things in life we want to achieve, go study abroad for a year, get a master degree, complete our bucket list, learn a new language, the possibilities are endless. Take the time to assess what you want to achieve in life and go after them.

 Build your relationship with God

As young adults, as we leave the nest, the onus is on us, to know God for ourselves and build that personal relationship with him.  Prayer and Bible study are essential elements in building that relationship with God and his sacrifice is the perfect example of what it means to truly love. Focus on getting to know God more and the purpose he has for your life.

 Learn to Cook

 As you adult in life, you will find yourself hosting friends and family. While fast food is convenient, it isn’t necessarily a healthy choice. Now is the perfect time to learn to cook.  You can turn to the food network, research how to cook your favorite foods and add them to your repertoire. Here are some of my favorite YouTube Food channels to watch, Mind Over Munch, Fab Lunch.

In life, our aim shouldn’t be to become what society wants us to become but instead to live up to Gods ideal. Gods knows you better than anyone, he created you, he will find you your ideal match. Focus on your relationship with God and he will give you the desires of your heart. God’s timing may not be the same as yours.

How have you been coping with singleness? If you are married, what advice would you give to your younger self?






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  • Reply
    Donna Reidland
    September 12, 2017 at 2:32 pm

    Building a strong relationship with God is so important! Whether we’re married or single, no other person can be all that we want or need. Only God can do that.

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      Rock Solid Faith
      September 13, 2017 at 2:29 am

      Building a relationship with God is extremely vital. Often as young adults though,this isn’t where our focus is.

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    September 13, 2017 at 10:42 pm

    Hi Shanique, good words of wisdom. It’s essential that we make the most of every season of our lives. One never knows how long the season may last but every day presents us gifts and opportunities for growth.

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      Rock Solid Faith
      September 14, 2017 at 12:40 am

      For sure, as Solomon says, their is a time and season for everything under the sun.

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    Timberley @ Living Our Priorities
    September 15, 2017 at 10:45 pm

    Great advice, especially the one on building your relationship with God. Too many singles think their life will be complete when they find their soul mate. And the truth is when they build a relationship with God first and then meet their soul mate, they will keep their soul mate in their respective place in the the line of priorities. {God, Spouse, Family…}. I just love that our hearts connect as faith bloggers that is why we have nominated you for The Blogger Recognition Award.

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      Rock Solid Faith
      September 18, 2017 at 2:45 am

      Awe!!! Thanks so much.

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    September 16, 2017 at 3:32 pm

    Great words of wisdom shared here. Having a solid relationship with God no matter our season is so vital to our walk. Blessings!

    • Reply
      Rock Solid Faith
      September 18, 2017 at 2:44 am

      Thanks for stopping by Barbie!

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    bethany mcilrath
    September 21, 2017 at 1:40 pm

    What great advice! Yes, building your relationship with the Lord is always the most important and worthwhile- single or not! As a married woman, I would also add “serve.” Like Paul points in Scripture, there is a little extra freedom to singleness to serve others where a married woman is likely to be serving her husband.

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      Rock Solid Faith
      September 23, 2017 at 2:06 pm

      OMG, there is so much to be said about the benefits of serving. By serving, you are not only making a difference in the lives of others but you will find your personal desires aren’t the central focus of your life.

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    Selina Almodovar
    September 22, 2017 at 1:40 am

    Great post! As a married woman, who blogs to Christian singles, I would advise them to be daring and live the life they always dreamed of living.

    When I was single, I dreamed of having my own space (apartment) with a cat. Simple, but it was my everything!

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      Rock Solid Faith
      September 23, 2017 at 2:14 pm

      Yay! to having single goals. I think every single person should do this. You can learn so much about yourself, life and just what you want from life in general by being daring and just exploring what life has to offer. Your “prince charming” will often show up in situations when you least expect it or not even looking for it.

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    May 26, 2019 at 10:20 pm

    I had pleasant memories of my single life when I read this. Love the part about learning to cook. I used to prepare two and three course Sunday dinners for me, myself, and I. Treated myself like the special person I knew that I was. It’s so important to this because the Bible talks about the fact that the married woman is most concerned with things about her husband. The time of singleness is really the time to dote on self and explore. And believe it or not, learning to enjoy single life helps to enjoy marriage.

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