I just don’t feel that “in love” feeling anymore in my Biblical Marriage. Why doesn’t he want to spend as much time with me? What did I do wrong this time? Ever thought any of these things as that hopeless feeling overwhelms you?
What if I told you that we have been sold a lie? The culture has fed us a line of propaganda about love and what marriage should look like that just fails the test.
Don’t believe me? Can you find another reason we have a divorce rate over 50%? More than 50% of all marriages end in divorce in the world and inside the church.
That is unbelievable on one hand but as a divorced woman I can’t deny it is true.
In this article, we will examine the idea of cultural love as well as explore several bible verses for marriage problems to help you find joy in your marriage.
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Bible Verses For Marriage Problems
Cultural Love is a feeling that comes and goes.
If we marry for love alone, when that feeling is gone, divorce seems the logical choice.
What if I told you that we have perverted the word love and need to completely throw out our definition and start over?
Seems radical, but when I think about the life of a Christian – someone who follows Jesus example in life – I think radical is appropriate. When I open the Bible I see a kind of love that is unconditional, practical, romantic and unending.
What Does The Bible Say About Marriage Problems?
We see this clearly in 1 Corinthians 13 – well maybe not so clearly if your eyes are already glazing over. How many times have you heard that passage taught? Can we look at it afresh today? Maybe just the first 2 words?
“Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Biblical Love is Patient
Whew, I can be quick to lose my patience with people around me – especially my husband.
Patience is certainly an action. There are 2 parts to putting patience into practice in my Marriage.
Pray before I speak
Prayer might seem really passive, but truly it is the main offensive weapon God gave us to fight a real enemy who is attacking our marriages! Need help with praying? The Beginners Guide to Prayer and Fasting is a great place to start.
My husband is human and prone to mistakes, just like me; I need to forgive him when he messes up.
Forgiveness is an area that we have to tackle head on. I’ve created a Forgiveness Challenge to help us do that better – check it out here!
Biblical Love is Kind
Kindness seems like a vague religious word doesn’t it? Nope, it is another action word or verb of love. What does it mean?
Love does/speaks good when it can, even in the face of injuries. (I would be fine with this one if it stopped before the comma… I mean can I get an Amen?)
In my natural human self I just can’t do that.
One way I have applied this verb is to find things that my husband likes and do them even when I want to lash out.
Kindness puts him first even when he has not been kind.
When I am hurt, I have had to learn to pray. Have you noticed a pattern here? I can’t be a godly wife without God’s help. When I pray, God reminds me to forgive (I know – another reoccurring theme!)
Those are just the first two words in what is an action packed Biblical way to love. When we live in the cultural love cycle we find find hopelessness. But God’s way – Biblical Love – is the way to find Hope and Joy in your marriage.
Bible Verses Marriage Problems
The following bible verses about marriage struggles have all been taken from the King James Version.
“For with God nothing shall be impossible.” Luke 1:37
“The Lord is my portion, saith my soul; therefore will I hope in him.” Lamentations 3:24
“Blessed is the man that trusteth in the Lord, and whose hope the Lord is.” Jeremiah 17:7
“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.” Colossians 3:13
“Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.” James 5:16
Bible Verses For Struggling Marriage
“And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” Ephesians 4:32
“And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8
“Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” Hebrews 13:4
“Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Matthew 19:6
“Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Ephesians 5:33
Bible Verses About Marriage Problems
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7
“Hatred stirreth up strifes: but love covereth all sins.” Proverbs 10:12
“For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.” Jeremiah 29:11
“ Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer;” Jeremiah 12:12
“ But Jesus beheld them, and said unto them, With men this is impossible; but with God all things are possible.” Matthew 19:26
Scripture For Marriage Problems
Are you longing for Hope and Joy in your Marriage?
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While the above Bible verses for broken marriages can offer some encouragement, I encourage you to check out the following helpful Bible Study resources.
- Are you a wife worried that your Christian Marriage is not going to survive?
- Do you feel hopeless, joyless or miserable in your Marriage?
- Are you a wife – unsure what your role is in your Christian Marriage?
- Do you struggle to connect as a couple anymore?
- Do you feel trapped?
- Have you tried everything and nothing has helped our Marriage?
- Are you thinking or talking about divorce?
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